Living on Automatic: How Emotional Conditioning Shapes Our Lives and Relationships 
by the late Homer B. Martin, MD and Christine B. L. Adams, MD
Christine B.L. Adams MD 
Book Description: Develops the ground-breaking new concept of “ emotional conditioning,” including how it occurs and how it harms people’s relationships, leading to emotional illness.The concept is described by the late adult psychiatrist, Homer B. Martin, MD, and child psychiatrist, Christine B. L. Adams, MD. Together they have eighty years of combined experience doing dynamic psychotherapy with several thousand patients of all ages.

Their book presents a new idea of personalities and relationships as they unravel the mystery of how the early patterns in relationships are passed down from parents to children, generation after generation and endure throughout life.The authors learned that people appear to undergo an emotional conditioning process irrespective of gender, sex, race, nationality, cultural or religious upbringing. This process creates two distinct roles or personalities. They learned that no one is “normal,” and we are all emotionally conditioned to mismanage our relationships because we react automatically to others without thinking and without considering best choices. Such emotional conditioning leads to misunderstandings, miscommunications and miseries that may manifest as anxiety, depression, sleep problems, eating disorders, and psychosomatic aches and pains.

Readers will learn why the ways of relating you learned as a child often explode later in life; why people choose the mates that they do; and how to observe and engage in introspection to begin to decondition themselves from autopilot, kneejerk emotional responses, allowing for the formation of better relationships with their spouse or partner, children, and other family members. Many case studies and questions are provided to enhance your grasp of emotional conditioning. The book is inclusive of the LGBT experience. For more info, please visit:

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